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Also, the decision as to whether or not the mate is good can be made with the emotional boundary of the shadchan who, if so desired by the couple, can call and talk to either side in the beginning stages of the dating to iron out issues that can crop up during the dating process.
Usually as the couple see more of each other the shadchan backs away and lets the couple manage it themselves.
After the match has been proposed, the prospective partners meet a number of times to gain a sense of whether they are right for one another.
The number of dates prior to announcing an engagement may vary by community. In stricter communities, the couple may decide a few days after originally meeting with each other.
Even so, Isaac gained his own impression of her before agreeing to marry her (Rashi, commentary to Genesis ).
However, when Eliezer proposes to take Rebekah back to Isaac in Canaan, he is told by Rebekah's family: "Let us ask the maiden" (i.e., Rebekah).
Eliezer traveled to his master's homeland to fulfill Abraham's wishes, arriving at a well.
After a short prayer to God for guidance, describing how a virtuous woman might act toward a traveling stranger at the well, Rebekah appeared on the scene and did everything described in Eliezer's prayer.
A shidduch often begins with a recommendation from family members, friends or others who see matchmaking as a mitzvah, or commandment.It can also be used to express the seeming fate or destiny of an auspicious or important event, friendship, or happening.